Clear Agreements create integrity in relationships.

Clear Boundaries prevent resentment & burnout.

When you’re running an organization, there is an expectation that the role comes with high performance demands and responsibility for more than just yourself.
You set the standard, and the example, for the work ethic necessary to succeed. If you’re overgiving, then you set the expectation that employees should do the same.

There’s a voice inside your head – demanding, unforgiving, maybe even cruel — that judges your every decision. You’re smart and competent, yet you doubt or second-guess yourself more than you’d care to admit.  You notice yourself doing things like:

• Going along with other people’s preferences to avoid conflict.

• Striving relentlessly to say and do things the “right” way.

• Prioritizing other people’s needs, without meeting your own (“I’ll be fine”).

• Habitually saying “yes” when you’d rather say “no, thanks.”

• Spending far too much time feeling anxious and overwhelmed.

• Working yourself to the point of exhaustion or even burnout.

Real talk?

You know all those clever strategies you’ve figured out to shield yourself from people and situations that would overwhelm you? They serve a purpose.

But when we live from the place of a thousand protections, it cuts us off from something bigger. It disconnects us from the supportive, universal energy that is within and around us. It suppresses our ability to live life our own way, like a unique work of art. And it keeps us from tapping into the full range of human experience.

“Hold on,” you may be saying, “Being human is hard. I’m not sure I really want the full experience.” Fair enough. But what if there’s a way to be with whatever’s happening in your life, without it overwhelming, flooding, or numbing you? That’s totally possible. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Hi, I'm Carmen.

I am a consent and boundaries evangelist and educator, and I work with executives and organizations to cultivate integrity through clear agreements, boundaries and consent culture.